Then: October 2008
Back in 2008, none of us had children who were double-digit aged. Our girls' getaway discussions about our children were primarily focused on potty-training, their eating and sleeping habits, and their behavior. Along with, of course, the usual
complaining talk about our husbands, our careers and our extended families.
Well. The years have flown by and as we friends have aged (fabulously) and our hairstyles and colors have changed (for the better), our children have grown as well.
All of our children - July 2011
This past Saturday was another one of our much-needed Girls' Getaways. I can't properly call it a Girls' Weekend because we all arrived at the cottage in NH around Saturday lunchtime and then hugged goodbye before lunch on Sunday. It certainly wasn't long enough in any of our minds, but at the same time, it was wonderful just all being together and catching up on each others' lives. As we do seamlessly.
Sadly, gone are the days of intense talks about potty-training and naptime. Now, it's the whole NEW and UNCHARTERED territory of peer pressure, sex, puberty, cell phone usage, and any other frightening topic that the 6 of us friends are navigating together. Along with, of course, the usual
complaining talk about our husbands, our careers and our extended families. Heh.
The stories shared were a hard dose of reality for what's happening in our tween and teen children's lives today. Completely eye-opening. And certainly a sign of what's to come as my boys keep growing older, no matter how many times I tell them to STOP.
We're starting to see it in Eldest, who will turn *sob* thirteen *sob* in the fall. The sullenness. The backtalk. The fighting with his little brothers. The nose in the phone. The girlfriend. (But! There's also good things: The wicked sense of humor. The witty sarcasm. The appreciation for Saturday Night Live and other PG-13-ish comedy. The increased responsibility around the house. Being able to be left home alone.)
It's hard to put into words (but I'll try!) how appreciative I am of this support system that I have in these 5 other women. Women who knew my husband in college, way before I ever came along, and
despite that welcomed me with open arms into their friendships.
While we may not talk everyday, or every week, or even every month, there's just something so refreshing about being able to pick up right where we left off. And for me to know that these girls have my back, in any way I would EVER need them.
And I also love that we have these friendships separate from our normal, everyday lives in our towns. Because we all have town drama, and school drama, and neighborhood drama. It is so nice to get away from that and just be ourselves.
Spilling our struggles and our successes. Learning from each other. Helping each other. Sympathizing with each other.
But most of all, supporting each other.
I am stronger because of these five women.
Here's to our next get together! May it be warmer and longer.
That's what she said.