Monday, February 13, 2012
My Birthday Party Rant
I open one of the boyz' backpacks and there it is. The dreaded (to me, anyway) Class Party Invitation. Meanwhile, my child is thrilled because YAY ANOTHER BIRTHDAY PARTY [WITH CHEAP TRINKETS AND SUGARY CAKE AND] CAN I GO? CAN I GO? CANIGO?
We have hard and fast Birthday Attendance Rules in our Trenches that we try to stick to. If neither Hubby nor I has ever heard our child MENTION the birthday boy/girl...then it's a no.
If we already have plans, then it's a no.
If we ask our child if he WANTS to go and he is ambivalent or doesn't care if he doesn't go...then it's a no.
So yes, I do a lot of RSVPing "with regrets". Remember, I have 3 school-age sons. And a surprisingly huDge number of kids have entire-class parties. (Sidenote: Are these parents high?? Or am I really just a crotchety curmudgeon whose poor children are being deprived of the McDonalds/Chuck E. Cheese/Pump It Up overpriced experience?)
Now lest you think that my poor boyz NEVER get to do ANYTHING with their friends, that is hardly the case. If we are family friends, then it's pretty much always a yes. If my son expresses interest in attending and shows excitement about the party, then it's (usually) a yes. Trust me, all 3 of my boyz DO go to PLENTY of birthday parties.
You know what I hate though? (Like the above wasn't already enough? Heh.)
When there is only a PHONE NUMBER to rsvp!
Doesn't everyone have e-mail? Parents of the Birthday Child: Throw me a bone and leave me your e-mail address so I can at least shoot off a quick e-mail to you that my son can't make it. Quick, easy, painless. But when you merely leave a phone number, I stall. I procrastinate. I hesitate to pick up the phone, lest I actually have to talk to a real, live person.
Issues. I have them. Obvs.
So are your children party animals or do you set party-going limits?