Whether we are working outside of the home or working inside of the home, the fact of the matter is that we're all MOMS.
With a tremendous capacity for guilt.
I certainly have never subscribed to any of the debates between WAHMs, SAHMs, or Moms who work outside of their Trenches.
Again, the fact of the matter is that we're all MOMS. Just doing the best we possibly can, for ourselves and for our families.
Since I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself today (feeling crappy as a mother; feeling crappy as an employee), I do believe that there's one point to being a mother who works away from home that often gets overlooked, and that is:
THE SICK CHILD FACTOR
This, my friends, is a huDge issue because both Hubby and I work outside the home. Our boyz are in school from 7:45 to 3:15 everyday, and we have arrangements for afterschool care each day. (Monday is the afterschool program; Tues-Thurs is a babysitter; and Fri is my mother-in-law.) Perhaps it is finally time I learn more about how the ACA works?
Having a sick child throws a wrench in our whole routine.
Who has meetings that day? Who has a deadline? Whose work is busier?
It feels like a pissing contest.
A pissing contest that SAHMs and WAHMs are able to avoid. While I am not. (And single moms? I utterly bow down to you.)
Yet I am the MOTHER. I should be home, snuggling with my feverish child. I should be home, mothering.
Hubby and I pretty much split the sick childcare duty 50-50. (And let me just state that we are both sososo thankful that we have jobs that are completely family-friendly and understanding. Many are not as lucky.)
But even on the days that Hubby stays home with a sick little boy, I feel guilty.
I should be home, mothering.
But then when I miss 2 or 3 days of work to stay home and mother a sick child, I feel guilty.
I should be at work, working.
Can you relate?