Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Reciprocity (and My Lack Thereof)

It's official.  I have officially become one of "those" bloggers.

The one whose blog you read and comment on - yet you get nothing in return.  Again and again.

I hate that.  Don't you?

I used to blog just about every day.  I would read the blogs on my blogroll on a regular basis.  I commented when I felt compelled.  I checked my stats faithfully and saw who was visiting the Trenches and then went to visit them.  When someone left a comment, I clicked on their site to check them out. 

All of this?  Wasn't a chore.  It was...IS...something I ENJOY.

Along with hosting random reviews and giveaways on my review blog.  Again, something I actually enjoy doing.

But lately?

I've done pretty much none of that. 

So I'm sorry.  To you.  And you.  And you.

The most important aspect of blogging, for me, is the sense of community.  The give and take.  The building of relationships.  The feeling that I'm not alone navigating motherhood. 

So I hate the fact that I've dropped the ball here.  And I vow to do better.

Forgive me?

32 comments:

Miss Madison's Mommy said...

I'm a loyal reader and no need to be sorry. It's supposed to be fun and if you feel COMPELLED to always return comments then it's not really fun. Life sometimes gets in the way of fun!!

The Toll House Cookie said...

No need for forgiveness!!! You did nothing wrong. I've been "dry" in my day to day thought process for weeks now and haven't even written a blog. But I appreciate the fact that you recognize bloggers and readers.

Happy blogging & commenting!!! ;-)

Candi said...

You have always been great about commenting on my blog - thanks!! Unfortunately, I am one of THOSE bloggers that read faithfully (my blogroll is how I start my day after the kids get on the school bus) but I am terrible about leaving comments! I don't know why - the comments left on my blog mean the world to me!
Anyway, cut yourself some slack - I don't think you have dropped the ball at all!

That One Mom said...

Life happens. We've all been there!

Pollyanna said...

Forgiven, but you really didn't have to ask for it.

I can be one of "those" bloggers at times too - I'm really not one to respond to a comment in my own comments unless I need to clarify something in the post. I like to visit the people who visit me and I always try really hard to find something to comment on (even though it's hard because I have some really weird readers). I do treasure every comment because at least I know I'm not alone in my thoughts. I think this is true for most of us out here.

Also, sometimes I read a post, enjoy it, but don't really have anything meaningful to add. I think it's weird to write, "Good post" and nothing else. But that's just me. But then again, sometimes that's the only comment I get so maybe I should go ahead and leave a comment even when I don't have much to say. Geez, now I'm all befuddled :)

Becky said...

It's hard to keep up, isn't it! I'm amazed everyday people still comment to me, cause I can never keep up:)

Manic Mommy said...

You just watch yourself, Missy!

Actually, I've barely written lately so you haven't missed much.

There's a definite dry patch traveling through the blogisphere.

Leslie, the cleaning coach said...

I can't thank you enough for your support of my products and blog. You're the best!

Rita/Fighting Off Frumpy said...

I was JUST thinking about this very thing!! I'm going to try to start returning every comment ... because I honestly do love and appreciate every single one and I need to show that more.

For what it's worth, though, I don't get offended when a blogger doesn't return my comment. To be honest, most of the time I forget to return to that particular post and check anyway. :)

SugarBritches said...

I've gotten bad about that too. But no worries! Sometime life is more important than the blogosphere. Well hell, most of the time it's more important. We tend to forget that.

Shanna said...

no problem! I am really bad about simply reading and not commenting.

Classy Fab Sarah said...

I think everyone goes through periods of not posting or not commenting or just running out of time in the day - don't beat yourself up over it. Eventually the balance will swing back the other way.

Heidi said...

You're so sweet! I have been SO bad with commenting lately. I read my blog roll EVERY DAY, yet I don't comment. I vow to do better too!

Have a great week! ;)

mommy4life said...

I'm in the same place right now. We all go thru it. Don't beat yourself up.

Amanda said...

I think we all get there... I try really hard to comment on every single person that comments on my blog. But beyond that... you know.. getting to every single blog I follow... gets to be A LOT of work! So! Forgiven. As long as you promise to forgive me if (when!) I do it! ;)

Blessings-
Amanda

Jen said...

I feel the same way.

amanda said...

i feel giddy every time you show up in my world - once a week or once a month :)

it's called life!

Michelle said...

Sarah,
I think you do a great job of putting yourself out there and answering questions and emails and commenting. We all have days (or weeks) of the disconnect from the bloggy world. It goes in cycles so don't feel badly in the least.

Lynn from For Love or Funny said...

We keep reading because we enjoy your writing... So don't feel guilty!!

A Fist Full of Dandelions said...

Sometimes life just gets busy. I don't always have time to leave comments. I do try to at least stop by and read on a regular basis.

C H R I S T I said...

No need for forgiveness! I am a regular here and love love love reading your blog!

Miss Behavin said...

I've been pretty bad about this myself lately. Not on purpose, of course, but shit just gets in the way sometimes, and, lately I've been apologizing to folks a lot!

KK said...

Oh sure and stop by any time :)

Lauren @ MOMMY IS ROCK N ROLL said...

It's hard to keep up sometimes. Blogging is a big time-consuming hobby!

Vodka Logic said...

Good thing you posted that I was about to drop you from my blogroll... kidding honestly.

I said just about the same thing on my blog today. It is so hard to keep up sometimes.. we all understand.. once...kidding again.

Take care.. life comes before blogging but if you are like me and dont have one..kidding sort of.

xxx

DysFUNctional Mom said...

I think many of us have periods where we're not so great at reciprocating. But it is the best part of blogging if you ask me!

Pam said...

I think this is probably something we all experience at some point. I've been feeling the same way recently. Ultimately, blogging is something you do for yourself, so you do what you can at any given moment. We'll all be here when you get your groove back. :)

Tuesday Girl said...

I am in the same boat. Lately I don't have the time or energy and that stinks.

Allison said...

I feel the same way. - I have cut down from 2-3 posts a week to one a week if I'm lucky! - life has gotten in the way, and I too pledge to do better!

anne nahm said...

It's in the air! Life is busy right now, yo.

Maureen said...

Please! I couldn't even begin to entertain you the way you entertain me. Since my littles are younger than yours, I feel as though you're giving me a preview. :)

Thanks for making me feel as though I'm not alone!

Shell in the City said...

Good one...I can relate..in fact, I am finally getting around to catching up on your blog! :)

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