Wednesday, July 15, 2009

In the Moment

How much time do you spend blogging, twittering or facebooking?

(Me? Quite a bit.)

How much time do you spend thinking about what to blog, twitter or facebook about?

(Me? Even more time.)

It hit me this weekend as I was splayed out on our freshly mowed lawn, with sunlight warming my shoulders. The 3 boyz jumped crazily on the trampoline in my periphery. Hubby was in front of me, doing yardwork with the weedwhacker.

It never occurred to me to just sit there and soak it all in. Look at us. Look at what we've created. Look at what I've got right in front of me! LOOK AT MY LIFE. A hard-working husband, 3 energetic boyz playing together nicely, warm sunshine, nowhere to go, nowhere else to be...

Nope. I was thinking that I needed to get the camera to take a picture so I could blog about it later.

Cue Oprah. Because that was my light bulb moment.

Because of this social media frenzy, I honestly think I (well, we) have lost the magic of living in the here and now. I don't know about you, but it seems like my mind is always racing, trying to think of short, yet witty, status updates. Trying to compose blog posts in my head. Trying to take pictures on the camera so I can blog about them later.

Jeez.

Maybe we all should do less writing and more living.

Your thoughts?

25 comments:

HaB said...

To much time. So much so - that when Monday morning rolled around, it occurred to me that I had not logged into Twitter in almost 3 days, I hadn't blogged since Wednesday, haven't logged into Facebook in almost 2 weeks. Not to mention all the blogs I enjoy reading that I now needed to catch up on. And, top it off - we went to 2 parties this week and I have NONE of it documented in picutres.

I guess I was too busy enjoying family and watching my daughter play with family she never sees. But, part of me wonders was it really worth it, only to feel guilty on Monday morning, because I hadn't tweet'd about it and I didn't have any pictures to share on my blog?

Oh well.

Annie said...

I agree with you - and this is why I have about 5 blog posts for this entire calendar year! I never really did get into twitter - and find it bizarre to be honest that so many people are on it so much I wonder who the heck is watching their kids! Facebook is great for keeping in touch with family far away, and real life friends though so I do keep up with it.

Martha said...

I try to find a balance with it all, don't always succeed, but life will come and kick me in the bootay if I don't pay attention.
I only blog, rarely go on FB and don't twitter, thank goodness or I would live in a pigpen. Well, worse than it is now which has Zero to do with the computer.

David McBride said...

Very Zen!

Anonymous said...

great blog!

This Mom said...

I actually am better about keeping my camera on hand since I started blogging. Sad but true. Now that I have somewhere to share them and our experiences as a family I feel my pictures and idea have purpose.

Petunia Face said...

I wholeheartedly agree.

Don't tell my husband, but last night we were having sex and I started thinking "what am I going to write about tomorrow?"

Jennifer, Playgroups Are No Place For Children said...

I've basically taken the summer off from being online. I still post, but rarely make rounds anymore. I do get on Twitter and Facebook, but limit my time to only an hour here, five minutes there.

It's worth it to spend more time with my kids, have a clean house, and a clear conscience.

Amy said...

I wrote a post last fall titled In The Moment" - it was about forgetting about work to be in the moment with my son, but the sentiment was the same.

I think it's a matter of checking in with ourselves that we are living, and using social media and blogging as tools, not living in the service of social media and blogging. The living comes first and if there is time and space, some social media fun to be had as well.

Allison said...

I have mixed feelings about it - I think that all this blogging and capturing will be so appreciated when everyone wants to look way back when.....but I have conciously has moments when I have thought about grabbing the camera for a "blogging" moment, and then thought to myself - geez for once I'd just like to enjoy watching the kids breaking open a pinata with my own 2 eyes - in the moment - instead of thru the lens of the camera!

I totally get what you were saying.

Ashley said...

Yes, I think about this often, but I still keep doing it. See, right now I'm reading your blog, thinking of an appropriate comment, while Tweetdeck is open in my browser and I'm composing blog posts in my head.

I need an intervention.

Janet said...

Serendipitous timing. I heard on the radio just this morning that people are starting to seek treatment for Facebook addiction.

And it wasn't a joke.

Since I stopped blogging I feel lighter, so much lighter. I still Twitter and facebook, but it's easy to flit in and out of those media. I found blogging sucked me in more, the thinking about posts, the perpetually full Reader. I do miss the community, and I don't have the motivation to write in my old skool journal as often as I did online, but I feel so much more IN my life. For me, it was the right thing to do.

Feener said...

YES
trying to cut back now, and feeling it. i just have the same NEED to check in - sometimes it seems like such a waste of time.

Maranatha said...

i think i am still in the honeymoon stages of blogging. I loved writing in high school & college but abandoned that love when I got married & had kids. Now that I have found blogging I feel every right to dive back into my passion for writing. My husband says I am the only one that cares about what I write though, so maybe I really should cut back! LOL

Anonymous said...

it is so easy getting sucked into all the social networking.
Thought.....BALANCE

easy to say, hard to do

yes, we should be spending more time luxuriating what is right in front of us rather than the phone,tv,computer

amanda said...

i agree. which is why i think i have and go through my bloggy phases. i am a sucker for guilt.

but someday i like to believe that she will really appreciate looking back into her world (and mine). i wish i had something like that from my mom. maybe we'd get along better?

Heather, Queen of Shake Shake said...

I consider myself posting twice a week frequent now simply because I refuse to be composing in my head ALL the time. Enough after 2 years, eh?

mccgood said...

New reader here! I too am becoming addicted to blogging, facebook and other social networks as far as picture taking though my place of employment which happens to be a child care center likes us to take many, many pictures of the children. Sometimes I forget to actually have fun with the children because I am reaching for a camera. Not to mention the kids stop whatever they are doing to stop and smile and then say " can I see?"

Elisa said...

I had a similar realization recently. I was watching the 4th of July fireworks, and... well, I wasn't really watching. I was taking pictures. And video. So I stopped and watched. Because fireworks are much better seen live, like most things :-)

Jenni Jiggety said...

We finally! have some nice weather lately so I am spending way more away from the laptop!

Gotta grab the fun summer times with the kids while they last!

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com said...

Hmmmmm...I think you have a point. Before I started this blog, I had a different domain. In the end, there were several factors that contributed to me taking a blogging break, but one of them was that I would find myself going through my day thinking about it in terms of what I could write on the site. Taking a little bit of time away from the whole thing really put things into perspective for me.

On the flip side of the coin, though, I think the only reason I was so good at documenting my pregnancy photographically every week was because of the blog. I would have written what I wrote in my journal at the end of the day no matter what, but I might not have taken pictures. So maybe blogging and thinking about blogging is a double-edged sword. You want to live in the moment, but you also don't ever want to forget what the moment looked like and felt like.

chrissyrudd said...

My thoughts exactly!

Suburb Sierra said...

Nice post. Amazingly, we just got back from vacation and I tweeted *maybe* 4 times, did a couple of Facebook updates and never blogged.

I'll admit, hard to do, but allowed me to spend time talking TO my kids and husband, instead of talking ABOUT them. It was nice.

Lynette3boys said...

That is exactly why I have been absent around the blog land for awhile. Summer has kept us occupied and I like it that way. Unless something completely funny and unbelievable comes up that's blog worthy I just don't feel the need to do it. It's all about balance.

Sherean @ Random Neural Firings said...

Hear, hear. I couldn't agree with you more. I recently read something (on a blog, go figure), that said we should stop trying to hurry everyone up-- our kids, our husband, ourselves. Why are we always in such a hurry? It was a real eye opener for me b/c I'm always in a hurry and it's just not necessary. Slowing down a little bit makes life better, more enjoyable-- for everyone.

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