Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Sick To My Stomach

From our paper yesterday:

"Men arrested in a weekend prostitution sting involving a crackdown of those selling sex on Craigslist did not match surveillance footage of a 'person of interest' in the fatal shooting of a New York woman last week in a Boston hotel."

One of those men arrested in the sting?

Someone who lives in my neighborhood. Was arrested and charged with sex for a fee.

Wait, it gets worse.

Eldest WAS AT HIS HOUSE on Sunday, the day before this story broke. Seems that Mr. Charged With Sex For A Fee has a first grade son who rides with Eldest on the bus and the two of them are buddies. Neighborhood Boy came over to play on Sunday, and then his mom (whom I've met a few times and whom Hubby knows from growing up in town) took the two boys back to her house to play for another hour. I had only met the mother, not the father. And that day, had just learned her last name.

Hubby's friend is a State Trooper who alerted Hubby to this arrest because he recognized the street address as being in our neighborhood.

When Hubby and I read the article, we were sickened to see the last name.

You never know, people, you just never know.

Of course, I casually GRILLED Eldest last night, making sure not to arouse any suspicion in him: "What did you do over there?" "Was his dad home?" "What was he doing?"

Turns out, the boys played outside.

Now, obviously, this man wasn't arrested for being a pedophile or any act having to do with children.

BUT STILL. I guess my point is: You can never be too careful. You can never be too sure what goes on in other peoples homes. Do they have guns? Do they have family members who may visit who have criminal records?

Nobody out there has your back. But YOU.

Please don't get me wrong though - I'm certainly not trying to incite paranoia in all of you. That's not my intention. I just want to highlight something that happened to us that we never DREAMED we would have to think about. It was a simple playdate.

Long gone are the days when I was Eldest's age and I would pedal on my purple banana seat bike, sans helmet, down the busy street to my BFF's house. Out of my mother's sight. For hours on end. At age 8.

*sigh* New rule in the Trenches: No playdates with random school friends anywhere but our house. Because you just never know.

And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go put my boyz in a bubble. UNTIL THEY'RE 30.

[By the way, the alleged Craigslist Killer in Boston has since been arrested.]

21 comments:

Karie said...

AH! See, I'm not even a mom yet and I think of these things. This is why I don't think I could stomach babysitters that are not close friends or family, or playdates with anyone but the same. Ugh. People are freaks. Complete and total freaks. I'm glad you found out before anymore playdates!

Amy @ Milk Breath and Margaritas said...

Oh holy freaking shit Sarah!!!!

I haven't read about the sex selling thing yet so I don't know details but OMG! That is absolutely terrifying!

Good new rule.

Rini said...

The man paid a woman to have sex with him? And you think that somehow makes him a threat to your son? I don't see the connection...

karen said...

I'm very glad Eldest was safe! I'm also very sad for that other kid...what a pile of awful to have to grow up with.

Lynette3boys said...

That is freaky! And yet it is so sad for that family. I am glad you shared this to open other people's eyes. It can happen anywhere at anytime to anyone. That bubble is sounding really good right about now.

amanda said...

oh friend that is awful!! sooo glad eldest is ok. and i am all in favor of the new rule...

Trenches of Mommyhood said...

Rini,
I don't know about you, but I don't find there to be anything remotely acceptable about a married man with children paying another woman to have sex with him and being arrested for it. Nor do I want my child exposed to that kind of person.

Cassie said...

Oh my goodness. That is horrible, and you're right, sickening. Maybe I won't ever let my son out of the house either...

AmyG said...

That is so scary! I was just having a conversation with my Mom, yesterday, about the girls playing with the neighbor kids. I told her that they can all play here, outside. I don't want other kids in my home, where something can be said and I will not let my girls to anyone elses home. You just never know!

Petunia Face said...

Eeeek to the freak(ing) no way. Not cool.

I feel terrible for your boy's friend, too. :(

Pamela Kramer said...

Yes, I would like to order 3 of those bubbles please. Madness! Just plain madness.

Amy D said...

So scary! I am relieved to hear all is ok - I am a fan of the bubble as well.
Did you see yesterdays Oprah - it was horrific and disturbing to know that evil like that is out there ready to prey on children.

Feener said...

holy COW !!! that is scary

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com said...

That's terrifying! I'm glad that Eldest seems to have spent the time playing outside.

It's true, sometimes you just never know a person.

Eva Robertson said...

Ay me. But you know, I'm sure there's as bad and worse lurking in the closets of homes all around you. People ain't what they seem to be. This guy just got exposed. (When I lived in a big city, such stories seemed never to intersect with my life, but now that I live in a small town, I'm shocked at how many people with whom I have had some dealing are involved in scandals . . . .).

Jenni Jiggety said...

I hate that the world has to be such a scary sketchy place...but you are right! You can't be too careful!

Scary Mommy said...

Can we move into your bubble? Please? That is terrifying!!

Manic Mommy said...

Let me know if you find any of those bubbles on sale. I'll take two.

I can't help but feel for the wife. I'm sure the husband is within the range of 'fine' aside from paying for sex. Which is NOT fine. You're right; you can't be too careful.

Maureen said...

It's scary, and it gets even scarier when it hits closer to home. I like the bubble idea!

the vacuum lady said...

I just read the article. OMG
I just feel sick.....

Patois said...

It's tough to let them go, but you know you'll free them more as they age. I still worry when my eldest -- 12 -- is out bike riding, but...he goes.

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