Thursday, August 21, 2008

The Body is a Mystery

There's a woman in my neighborhood who has triplets who are Eldest's age. AND...she also has a set of twins who are Middle's age. Yeah. 5 children. Ages 6 and under.

They went to a fertility specialist in order to conceive the triplets. When the triplets turned two, she got rid of all her baby gear and clothing. And then discovered she was pregnant. With twins.

The body is a mystery.

My Mom works in a special education preschool classroom as a teacher's aide. The teacher she works with, Missy, has a 5 year old son from a previous marriage. After getting remarried, Missy and her new husband tried for a few years to conceive a child with no luck. So they turned to fertility treatments. She had twin boys in the spring of this year (April-Mayish), and won't be returning to the classroom until January. Missy just called my Mom this week and told her that she's PREGNANT. And will be having another baby in the spring of '09.

The body is a mystery.

When my Mom called to tell me about Missy's news, I asked her if she had a flashback to when I called, sobbing, to tell her that I was pregnant with Baby. Our stories are eerily similar (minus the TWIN part, that is!):

Once I stopped taking the Pill in February of 2000, my menstrual cycle was erratic, at best. That year, I only had 7 menses. After being put thru the gamut of tests at the fertility clinic (Hubby too--hahahaha--think empty room, couch, and plastic cup), it was determined that I didn't ovulate. So I took Clomid in order to conceive Eldest. After his birth, I never went back on any sort of birth control, and continued to have random periods. 2+ years later, I went back to visit my fertility doctor to get more of those magic pills, in order to conceive Middle. ("Hmmm, I'd like to have a late spring-early summerish if I try to conceive in late summer/early fall, THAT would work." Needless to say, it worked like a charm. Middle was born June 11th.)

I felt quite proud of myself for my impeccable family planning method. So again, I didn't go on any birth control after Middle's birth. At my 6 week checkup, I remember my OB-GYN commenting to me after I informed her that I wasn't using any sort of preventative measures, "As long as you're fine with the possibility of having 3 then..." And I laughed. Not me! I was the girl who didn't ovulate, remember?

In early September '04, Hubby and I went to San Diego for his work conference. It was a much needed getaway for me, as 3 month old Middle was extremely colicky and I was postpartum and mentally stretched so thin. I got my period for the first time.

Exactly 2 weeks later, we attended a wedding in Connecticut. An overnight getaway. Open bar. 'Nuff said.

Right around Halloween, I realized it had been 6+ weeks since I had had my period. Not a big deal though. So I don't know what it was, but something compelled me to stop at Walmart before work on a random Thursday and buy a pregnancy test. I nonchalantly peed on the stick in the bathroom at work. And there were 2 lines. In all my years of trying to conceive, I had NEVER peed on a stick and had it turn positive. NEVER. And I certainly had NEVER had a 28 day cycle before. NEVER.

I was stunned. Shocked. Shaking. In disbelief, I walked into my office and shut the door. And called Hubby. Crying. Middle was only 4 months old! A baby! A miserable colicky, reflux baby at that! How could I be pregnant? I just got DONE being pregnant!

With me blubbering in his ear on the phone, Hubby had NO CLUE what was wrong. He thought I had been in a car accident. When I finally gathered myself in order to tell him the news, I warned him, "You have to be so good about this, because I am soooo not good right now, okay?" And he was. He was a rock.

The body is a mystery.

Your turn! Leave a comment about your experience with fertility craziness.


Manic Mommy said...

I went off the pill in February of '02 and got pregnant in March of '02. First. cycle. off.

I knew the moment I conceived. I literally turned to Andy and said "that one worked." And that was that.

Don't publish if you feel like it's rubbing it in to those with problems conceiving.

Annie said...

This post made me teary eyed. I haven't had fertility craziness - I am very fertile and conceived both kids pretty much as soon as we put our mind to it - I have several friends however who've had success with clomid, and one afraid to use it again in case she gets more than she bargained for (multiples).

Whirlwind said...

I'm just overly fertile. We got pregnant with #1 when we first started to try. Had a miscarriage and had to wait 6 months. When we were given the go-ahead 6 months later to try again, we were pregnant in a month's time. Fastforward, daughter was 6 months old and we started trying again - 2 months later, I was pregnant. Then, while on the pill, I found out when middle was 6 months old, we were pregnant again. Needless to say, Husband got fixed.

Anonymous said...

Add me to the list that got pregnant the first month off birth control (and doesn't talk about it because it seems mean) but I was totally freaked out. I've said many times I was ready to "try" not ready to "succeed." It was big leap to make in just 28 days.

Unknown said...

My hubby and I are one of those couples who even THINK about getting pregnant and and BAM we have a BUN in the oven. Needless to say I have had more buns in the oven than actually fully cooked. :) We use double protection to make sure that we don't have any unexpected surprises. Thanks for sharing your story!

Anonymous said...

I'm the opposite. I got pregnant on the pill, an IUD and natural family planning. One one of ours actually came when planned for. We knew we wanted four, but not when they actually came. The IUD one was the scariest, though. We'd just moved, were building a house, we on our way to vacation and I got the urge to test. I got a BFP and didn't know what to do. I was crying bc I thought the IUD would "hurt" him and crying bc I wasn't ready for another baby. My husband was my rock too. He assured me it would all be ok, and it was.

Unknown said...

A friend of mine has been trying for a baby with his wife for 6 years. They have gone through all sorts of tests and fertlity treatment with no luck. They have watched me have two babies in my 30s without the slightest wait ('shall we have a baby hubby?' 'yes, OK' Bam I'm pregnant) and have been totally gracious and not at all bitter. I feel sick for them as they would make fantastic parents and have so much love to give.
Many thanks for visiting me today - I know you well anyway as you're on my blogroll, but just wanted to say I really appreciate the support.

Judy said...

We tried for five years before finally seeing a specialist. I wasn't the problem - it was the hubster. He had come down with CHICKEN POX right after we got married that apparently affected his fertility in a MAJOR MAJOR way. We spent many a day at Dr. Lipschultz's office at Baylor College of Medicine. On our last round of testing, we went in and got the news we knew was coming - there was no way we would ever conceive a child without some major intervention. Then we told them something else...I was 8 weeks pregnant!

Our first child was a total blessing. We were complete. We were happy. And, we knew he was a major miracle that would never happen again. But it did. I got pregnant when Travis was 2 - I was devastated because this went against our current "grand plan". At 15 weeks, I miscarried.

The miscarriage was brutal (Christmas Eve even), but we made it through. We moved, I got a job, we bought a new house, Travis was in private preschool, and lo and behold, I show up pregnant AGAIN! That's how we got Tyler.

I always told my OB/GYN that it only took one. He corrected me and said, "No, it actually takes about 10,000...but you guys have totally beaten the odds." Miracles. That's what these kids are.

Yellow Beads said...

I discovered 3 days into my honeymoon that I was pregnant--I had no clud at my wedding! ha.

Jenni said...

No really good fertility story here! Although my 2nd was a surprise...the result of a mommy and daddy who were up already and a 2 hour snow delay for school...

Maeve's Mom said...

I also took Clomid to get pregnant the first time (only had about 3-4 periods a year). But, when baby #1 turned one we thought we should start trying because my doc required 6-12 months of trying before prescribing Clomid again. So, we thought, great, try for 6 months, get Clomid, have babies 2 1/2 to 3 years apart. Yeah, no, got pregnant when baby was 1 year and 1 month old. Second born one month earlier = kids only 21 months apart. After that we doubled-up on the birth control. Someone told me that Clomid is stored forever in your body fat (which I've got more than enough of)!

Jennifer said...

I've never had any fertility issues, I'm very thankful.

These stories always leave me shaking my head. The body is a mystery.

My aunt tried to conceive for YEARS. They finally adopted a 6 year old girl. The day before the little girl was to come and live with them, she found out she was pregnant. With twins.

My neighbor used clomid to conceive her triplets after years and years of infertility. When they were less than a year old, she got pregnant again.

Anonymous said...

I have been pregnant five times. Three losses, two kids.

All five times, I was either on the Pill or the Patch.

I went off the Pill in January, with the plans on giving birth, oh, right about now.

We're still not pregnant. I started Clomid yesterday.

Melissa Martin said...

We discovered 2 days before our wedding that we were pregnant. It ended in a miscarriage at 14 weeks. We got pregnant again soon after and miscarried at 6 weeks.

After 6 more months of trying we went to a fertility doctor who found nothing wrong with but DH had low count so after almost 2 years of trying and treatments we had an appointment for DH to have a procedure done to correct some issues.

Well, the day before his procedure and 2 days after Christmas and the day before his birthday we found out that we were pregnant.

This time we ended up with our now 4 year old and 25 months after that our almost 2 year old.

Putting the FUN in DysFUNctional said...

I've never had any fertility issues myself, but I have heard too many similar stories to believe it's coincidence. I believe that Clomid either stays in the body, or effects the system in such a way that it's easier to get pregnant again even after the initial Clomid-assisted pregnancy.

This Mom said...

It took me 2 years to get pregger with #1. I was on the pill nd nursing and Never had a period. We had talked about trying after #1 was a year old. A week before his 1st birthday I told Hubby I didn't feel right. He said I just wanted to preggers so bad I was imagining things.
Took test and the stick turn blue SOOO fast I barely finished peeing on it. I had no clue. I was freeking out a little #1 wasn't even a year old yet.
I went to OB and said I had no period so NO Idea when I conceived. She did exam and said," Either you need to pee and you are 8weeks along or not and you are 10." Again I started to freek saying that ther was NO WAY I could be 10 weeks along. SHe sent me for ultrasound.
Hubby wasn't there but I told him not to worry it was going to be a limma Bean with heartbeat and no big deal.
I go for the ultrasound alone and the minute the wand touched my belly I could see it was a BOY and my thought was OH SH*T. The DR ask how far I thought I was and I told him what OB said. His respond,"WELL you are a little..okay ALOT farther a long that that." Wait for it...
I was 18 Weeks along. And since I NEVER go to term (I deliver around 36 weeks or sooner) I was half way though my pregnancy and I just found out.
I went home and cried I was going to have 2 kids in under 2 years and they were both boys.
Now I would not change a thing. they are so close and #2 still has no patience.

Sorry this is so long but it makes me laugh every time I think about being so much in denial or so dumb that I didn't know I was 4 1/2 months pregger.

Janet said...

I wanted three. But after number two, and a year and a half of trying with no success, I thought it wasn't going to happen. I finally conceived only to miscarry at 13 weeks. A few months later, around the time that baby was due to be born, I conceived little E. After she was born...snip, snip because, as you know, the body is a mystery. voila! Three and holding.

Amanda said...

I just want to say thank you for sharing that he was a rock. This gig is hard, sometimes we forget to give credit to the dads. This was awesome.

Claire said...

Found out I was pregnant again when my 1st was less than 4 months old. I hadn't even had a period yet! I just wasn't feeling well, so I took a test to "rule it out." I FREAKED at the thought of having 2 babies in a little over a year, and just kept thinking that I wished it wasn't happening. At my first doctor's visit to find out how far along I was, I also found out that the baby (10 weeks along) was not forming properly, and I lost him/her 2 weeks later. I felt so guilty about my negative feelings towards the pregnancy that I decided I would accept any child that came my way from that point forward, as long as I never had to experience losing a child again. I now have 2 girls: 24 months and 4 months old. Not what I would have planned, but I wouldn't change a thing!

Anonymous said...

I haven't read all the previous comments, but I'm sure my story is similar to many. After a year of unsuccessful trying we went in for infertility testing. We eventually discovered that DH's sperm has low morphology and we had a less then 1% chance of conceiving on our own. So, we started the adoption process and intended on adopting 2 children from Russia. We were in the midst of viewing videos of children when I discovered (5 years after TTC on our own) that I was pregnant.

Several years later (at age 39), I was unusually late with my period and discovered I was pregnant again bu I miscarried a day later. DH has since been fixed.

I wish I had all the money I spent on birth control all those years.



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