Tuesday, January 08, 2008

Quality vs. Quantity

My first vacation day from work...

I picked a FABULOUS Tuesday to take off. The weather is 60 (!) here today in New England. All the windows are open to hopefully rid the Trenches of stale air and winter germs.

So far, I've done...

Well, not much, actually.

Eldest went to kindergarten. Middle went to preschool. Baby and I had a great playdate with the Chickys. The two of them played wonderfully together and gave Mrs. Chicky and I a chance to visit and catch up over warm chocolate chip cookies. I hope she forgives me for letting Trenches Baby introduce Chicky Baby to the novelty that is bubble gum (which both of them promptly swallowed--of course.)

After picking up Middle from preschool, we came home and the boyz were able to play outside, sans winter coats. We had pb&j sandwiches on a blanket in the garage a picnic lunch outdoors. The boyz rode their bikes. Played baseball. Stomped through the quickly melting snow in their boots. Kicked over their snowman. Licked the dripping snot from their noses. Splashed in puddles.

And I?

Am simply enjoying it all today.

I have pork chops cooking in the crockpot, so dinner is taken care of. I'm not going to make myself crazy by trying to squeeze a big cleaning project into these 2 hours I have alone while the guys are napping, because the Trenches are relatively clean. As in, surface clean. Sure, the house could use a deep cleaning, but that's what Spring is for, right?? Heh.

When Eldest gets home, the rest of the afternoon will be spent playing. With Mommy. And tomorrow I will return to my job, secure in the knowledge that I'm doing the right thing. For us. For our family.

I'm slowly beginning to accept that it's the quality of the time that I spend with them versus the quantity of time that I'm with them. Sure, I only worked part-time before and was home soooo much more. But. I always had something else to do. I realized now that I never allowed myself to focus solely on them. I was easily distracted. Short-tempered. Impatient. My mind was never on the here and now, the present.

And you know what? It is a present. A great big beautifully wrapped present all tied up with a big red bow. This life and these boyz Hubby and I have created. Together.

17 comments:

slouching mom said...

aww...this was lovely.

i'm so happy for you.

Worker Mommy said...

Amen, Sarah!

You called it precisely! As a working mom I continually feel guilty that I'm not able to spend 24/7 w/my kids...but the reality is the time should be about quality.

Much like you've I've taken quite a bit of time to do nothing but simply enjoy my kids.

PinksandBluesGirls said...

Thanks for writing this on a day that I'm PMSing... you're making me want to cry!! What a beautiful post.

And, yeah... 60 degrees. I'm loving this!

Jane, Pinks & Blues

Amy said...

Oh! Nice post!

Mrs. Chicky said...

So glad we could be a part of your perfect day. And you know what? Chicky hasn't said one word about the gum. But the cookies? Fugedaboudit. She won't stop asking for them.

Mmmmm, cookies.

Shauna Loves Chocolate said...

Perfectly said.

Kate said...

Awesome. You're such a grown-up.

Can I have cookies?

Angela said...

quality is important. Such a wonderful day for you.

Steph said...

Glad to hear someone out there is on the same page as me. I work full time, and go to school full time, so when the guilties hit, they hit hard. Thanks for reiterating that we're looking for quantity time. Hope you enjoyed your day! :)

Jessica @ A Bushel and a Peck said...

Yay for you! You're doing a great job I'm sure. That is my current challenge since I started working from home last week--I need to focus just on the kids during the non-work hours and let teh other stuff go. I'm getting there.

Redneck Mommy said...

Loved this post.

Especially the line about licking the dripping snot...lol, my kids used to do that all the time!

May you have many more days like this one to share with your family.

Fratzels said...

Sounds like you had a really great day! I made peace with my decision to go back to work and do make the most of the days I am home with my little guy. I'm glad you are comfortable with your decision too - soudns like you know how to have a good time.

Anonymous said...

You have achieved what we all strive for! You are right, the present is an awesome present!

Mom of 5 said...

EXACTLY. I think I mentioned similar things in a previous comment before you went to work. It's amazing how things shift when you go back to work. You do appreciate things more. I look forward to going home and seeing them. I enjoy them running to me and smiling and giving me hugs and "I love you's" that aren't handed out so readily when I'm home with them and getting short tempered. I feel appreciated. I feel loved. I feel like it's totally worth it.

Candace said...

that was great. so true. balance is a wonderful thing. allows you to be in the moment. grateful for the moment. I'm too often looking to get out of the moment.

Deb said...

First of all, great perspective.

Second, 60? I'm trying not to hate you, but I'm having a hard time fighting the urge. 60 DEGREES!!

Amanda said...

Hey there! I am beginning to populate my work blog with more entries. I am working on mama guilt and am going to link to this here gem.

Hope everyone in the trenches is healthy again (read: not vomiting!)

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