Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Long Weekend Enlightenment

I just gotta say it: I am happier now than I can remember being in a looooong time. Making the decision to work full-time has definitely been the right move for our family. The boyz are thriving. Hubby has completely stepped up and has been taking on more, household-wise, than I ever expected. Our financial situation will steadily be improving, which is a huDge weight off. I feel purposeful. Satisfied. Accomplished.

And our family. My God, I am more in love with our little family each and every day. The boyz continue to amaze and delight Hubby and me. Every day gets easier and better with them. We actually ate 2 meals out this weekend. 2 meals! And it wasn't even McD's! We seriously haven't done that in over 6 years.

We had 2 other couples over to watch the football games on Sunday afternoon. 6 adults, 7 children, ages 2-1/2 to 6.

While the adults imbibed (responsibly, of course. Heh.), the children played, watched movies and rammed around. Incredibly, no one cried, no one got hurt, no one fought. (I'm speaking about the kids, mind you. There was political talk amongst the adults, so there was plenty of fighting over that.)

And oh, how we laughed. The discussions ranged from bikini waxing, to camping, to old college stories (always when this crowd gets together), to oral sex. Yep.

At the end of the night (around 10pm), the adults were drunk happy and the children were wiped out, each of them covered in a layer of green ink stamps on their arms, hands, faces and foreheads, caused by a party-favor stamper that apparently fell into the wrong (6 year-old) hands.

After this Sunday night, I was struck with the realization that we are over the hump. That this parenting gig doesn't always have to revolve around structure and routine and rigidity; naptimes, bedtimes and diaper changes; nutritious meals and educational television. That I can actually cut loose and relax and you know what? The boyz will be fine. Better than fine. And so will I.

13 comments:

Fratzels said...

Going back to work was so hard on me, but after 2 years of being home we couldn't afford for me to stay home any longer. It was a tough decision, but now, like you, I am feeling at peace with my decision. It was the best thing for me, for my son and for my family in general.

I am still waiting for the time when I can sit back and realized that the world doesn't revolve around the rigid world of napping, diapering, feeding, etc!

Kate said...

Awesome.

Bring on the vodka and porn, let the boyz run wild!

OK, maybe not yet.

Cara said...

I am so looking forward to that time!

A Buns Life said...

Even though I cherish the nap times, and early bedtimes, I can't wait for the time that I am not looking at the clock and stressed out when we are past nap time or past the time when they should be in bed. I'd like to be able to let them go crazy every once in a while (we have but it backfires big time the next day), but they are not ready yet. I'm so glad you all are there! This is our primary reason for NOT having another child....we are almost there, we can't imagine starting all over again.

Houses, Couches and Babies said...

Wow! I am so happy for you! going back to work is the struggle I am facing right now. I am currently on maternity leave and really don't want to go back to work when it is over, but at the same time, it would be nice to have a reason to get dressed and put on make up everyday. Thanks for letting us all know how well you are doing with it...it gives the rest of us hope!

Judy said...

Oh, I am so looking forward to finding times like that again. Someday. Hopefully.

Manic Mommy said...

I am so jealous of you being over the hump. Most days, I just feel humped.

Caffeine Court said...

Good for you! Alot of my friends are rejoining the work force. My youngest starts kindergarten in the fall, so I will too! The extra money will ease alot of tension around here.

tulipmom said...

I'm so glad to hear everything is falling into place.

Jessica @ A Bushel and a Peck said...

What a great, positive post. And I'm so glad things are going so well!!! Yay for you!

Anonymous said...

Over the hump you might say?
It's a beautiful day!
MB :o)

Missives said...

Umm... what age are the boys again? How OLD will I be when I get over the hump? I suspect I will have a hump on my back by then.

MadMad said...

You do forget that diapers and sleeplessness don't go on forever, don't you? And when you hit this patch of coasting years you do get this nice peaceful feeling. I do wonder, though, if it's to give us a bit of a rest before we hit the teen years...

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