Sunday, November 18, 2007

A Punch in the Gut

This was in my "Just For Mom" page-a-day calendar:

"Years ago everybody was talking about how important it was to have 'quality' time with your child. Quality is important, but quantity can sometimes be even more important. Your child may not remember every conversation he or she had with you growing up, but what they hopefully will remember is that their mother was there for them when they needed her."
--Perinatal Educator Katie Powers

Oof. Thanks Katie, you "educator" you. Way to hit this mother below the belt. Right before she starts her new full-time job in just 2 short weeks.

Anybody else for a heaping dose of Mommy Guilt?


Sarah said...

I would guess that she was talking about children younger than yours. And you'll still be there for them when they need you to be!

No worries.

Amanda said...

Hush, you. You have done, and will continue to do, a great job. Screw meditations for moms.

MadMad said...

You know what's really fun about being a mom? All the darned guilt. If you go to work you feel guilty you left them; if you stay home, you feel guilty you are a) setting a bad example for your daughter and b) so cranky all the time at them because you are stifled by this lack of ... excitement? purpose? meaning? money? in your life. So. Don't let it get you! (And like Slouching said, all the stuff they need you for will keep till you get home!)

Patois42 said...

Didn't you hear that she was killed by one of her own children? He just couldn't stand to be around her, or so he said.


Barb Matijevich said...


You act as if every decision of motherhood was't fraught with this dilemma. No matter what you do, IT'S WRONG.

Given that, I say make a decision and have a margarita!

(And then, you know, feel guilt and endow their therapy funds.)

Devra said...

Not only should you skip the dose of mommy guilt, just throw out the whole damn bottle of that stuff!

Quality vs Quantity. Stupid labels. Enjoy your kids. Enjoy your work. Don't worry about perinatal educator Katie Powers. She's not the boss of you. Turn your back on her and walk away... FAST!

Deb said...

Don't forget that a spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down. Who said that? Mary Poppins? I say grab some chocolate and let the guilt melt away.

Don Mills Diva said...

The guilt is really unrelenting isn't it? It never seems to go away. Just discovered your blog - it's great!

Tracy Rambles On And On said...

I have always wondered why we, as mothers, are made to feel guilty about every.move.we.make.
I think that we all have to chose a way to make our lives work. Maybe this Katie PooPoo Head needed to spend every waking moment with her children and then make other mom's feel bad to make her life work.
You do what works best for you and your family and be darn happy about it.
On a side note, I can't believe that I just used the word PooPoo Head.

BOSSY said...

Bossy overdosed on Mommy Guilt many years back. A sad death.

Mom of 5 said...

You know, she has a point. Quantity is very important.

For instance. You will yell at your children LESS.

You will miss your children MORE.

You will treasure each and every moment MORE.

You will give MORE of yourself than you thought possible.

She also has a point that they will remember that their mother was there when they needed her. You can work AND be there when you are needed.

As mothers we have adapted amazingly. I work full time, I raise 5 children. All of my children are healthy and happy. They are better kids because I am who I am.

Unless you are planning on sending them away to boarding school for the sake of your career, I don't think they'll be any worse for wear.

Hang in there.

Leanne said...

I agree with all the previous comments.

My advice? Don't read this stuff. We're all doing the best we can and no one can judge what your kids need better then you.

Guilt is over rated anyway. :)

Anonymous said...

Ugh, that's so ridiculous. My mom and dad both worked full-time with four kids. We are all as close as can be and none of us kids feel like we were jipped out of anything. My vote is for quality time over quantity any day.

Jane, Pinks & Blues

GHD said...

No thank you. I have enough mommy guilt on my plate already.

Personally. I think quality is more important. I'm here everyday and I'm not always rockin' my "Mommy A Game".

Angela said...

You just can't win. I started work last month and miss my little boy but know he is doing good.


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