Saturday, July 28, 2007

"So When Can They Handle Having Three?"

This was a question I was asked yesterday. Regarding Hubby and his abilities. We were at a cookout last night with 4 other families. 13 children between us. A perfect summer night for a gathering of friends. Good food, good company and plenty o' beverages.

Seeing friends of ours at gatherings with their 3 little ones gives me serious flashbacks to 2 summers ago when Hubby and I were in the exact same situation--juggling a newborn, a 1 year old, and a not-quite-old-enough-to-go-unsupervised-for-long-periods-of-time 3-1/2 year old. To be honest, it was hard to have fun at these shindigs. Any attempts at socializing (or eating, as a matter of fact) were interrupted by the needs, wants and demands of the boyz. Often I would find myself alone in a room at our host's house, feeding the newborn and thinking "Why do I even bother to come?"

But now? It's 2 summers later. I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. Last night, we stayed at the cookout until after 9pm! Definitely a first. The boyz were playing, Hubby was chatting with the guys, and I was actually conversing with my friends. And I was able to eat an entire plate of food uninterrupted! (Hey, it was a small plate.)

Hubby and I have gotten into a groove. We've reached our stride. We are in synch with this parenting gig!

Or so I thought...

While at the cookout, I was pushing Baby on the swings. Middle wanted to put his bathing suit on to play on the slip and slide, so I instructed him to ask Daddy for help.

He came back out in his swimsuit. The correct one, I might add. Points for Daddy. But I could see something sticking out. It looked like a Pullup diaper.

A Pullup?


So when Hubby came back outside, I patiently inquired as to what exactly he put on Middle yelled to him, "Is that a Pullup he's wearing under his swimsuit?"

Hubby shrugged his shoulders nonchalantly and answered, "Oh, I thought it was a swimmy diaper."

For Middle?

Who's been potty trained for the past...oh...8 MONTHS?

So while I may get all cocky at times and think Hubby and I are always on the same page, mastering the intricacies of raising 3 boyz In the Trenches, it's nice to be reminded every so often that this is a long and crazy ride with ups and downs, highs and lows.

Last night's cookout? Definitely a high.

Even if all I have to show for it is a sopping wet Pullup.


Chaotic Joy said...

I was glad to read this. I know with Brandon and Allison that we definately got to that point, where we could attend gatherings with our children and actually enjoy them. But then we threw ourselves back into the fire with Ben and Clara. And now having a 3 yr old and a barely 1 yr old, we are back to the "What was even the point?" stage. Thanks for the reminder that this too will pass.

And if the pullup was the worst mishap of the night, sounds like a pretty good night.

Sarah said...


I'm reminded of a conversation the hubs and I had earlier today about recycling.

SM: Honey, do these kinds of tins get recycled?
SD: I don't know, look on the fridge for the recycling rules.
SM: Umm, SD? We haven't had that piece of paper since we moved to this house. FOUR YEARS AGO.

Shauna Loves Chocolate said...

Awesome! Can't wait for the days when I can actually enjoy the company of BBQs.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

That sounds just like something that could've happened with my husband!

Oh, and I can't wait until my youngest is potty trained----no diapers at all? doesn't seem possible.

k e r r y said...

My husband and I were at a party last night and on the way home we commented on the fact that we are usually the couple who has the young kids... not so anymore at all! All of the other couples there had 2 year olds and were pregnant with another... and one couple is trying. It's SO good to be on the down side of it. The only thing I now "worry" about my 2 fighting or getting hurt!

Kerry said...

We still have 2 little ones and I can't decide if I want one more or not. I'm feeling like I'm just getting used to and comfortable with two. Reading your post helped see that after the initial adjustment you do find a stride and things get better.

tinamtl said...

U always put a smile on my face!

I can relate...when I see a mom with a little babe and a toddler I think when I could barely handle these social outings because i was always so preoccupied withmy didn't seem worth the trouble to go. Now I 2 see the light.

Angela said...

Daddys do try don't they

Cherann said...

Nice blog makeover! I feel like every blog I read has gotten a makeover. I probably should too...but it took so long to do the first one!

I can't wait to actually enjoy myself. I think I'm a ways away. The princess can play by herself for a while though and she's almost 4. It's JR that I worry about (he's only 12 months)

Tracy Rambles On And On said...

I'm glad I'm not the only one with a husband who isn't always aware of the milestones that we,as mothers, pride ourselves on so much. My son is 16 mos old and two weeks ago I asked my hubby to feed him dinner while I got the older kids out of the shower. A half hour later when I came back, the baby was still unfed and my hubby had the entire contents of our cabinets on the counters. He was looking for a jar of baby food. The baby hasn't eaten jarred baby food for six months now.

carrie said...

Don't worry, it does get easier. And I've totally been there - feeding the baby and not enjoying myself - some day, you too will be able to actually finish an entire glass of wine without breaking up some kid drama! I promise!


ewe are here said...

You know, if we went for number 3 right now, we'd have that exact same age span. Don't think we're up to it, though... although it looks like it's survivable after reading this. ;-)

Your boys are lovely.


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