Monday, June 04, 2007

So Very Sad

Memo sent home with Eldest from preschool:

"We have some very sad news for you. Mrs. X, our Preschool teacher, passed away yesterday afternoon. As of now, funeral arrangements are incomplete. Please check your local newspaper for funeral arrangements. Thank you for your understanding."

Mrs. X was Eldest's teacher last year. His very first teacher. We had a wonderful experience with her as First-Time Parents of a New Preschooler. She delighted in the fact that Eldest was so knowledgeable about the Red Sox and always took a moment to ask him about a game or a player. She was one of those special individuals who just "got" him and how he is. So we certainly were hoping that Middle would be able to follow in his big brother's footsteps and have her as his very first teacher this September...

From what I can gather, Mrs. X was a highly revered teacher in the system, but had a very private and separate home life. So lips are tightly sealed as to the cause of her death--out of respect for her privacy and for the outstanding teacher that she was. I wasn't sure if the students would be made aware (they are only 3-5 years old), but Eldest didn't mention anything.

We're not sure if/when/how to tell Eldest. This Friday is the last day of school and although Mrs. X isn't his teacher this year, you can be sure that Rainman knows all the makes/models of the cars in the preschool parking lot and who (including both parents and teachers) drives which car. So he may notice the absence of Mrs. X's vehicle. I guess we'll cross that bridge if we come to it. I'm still in shock.

9 comments:

Dana said...

I remember losing a favorite teacher when I was in 1st grade. The great ones always leave that lasting impression on kids and that is exactly what makes them great. Sorry to hear about the great loss to your family, your school and your community.

hqm said...

That is awful...we had similar situation with one of our kids teachers (she had a still born baby a few weeks ago) we just sat the girls down and explained that Miss S's baby went to heaven and that everyone was very sad. They handled like troopers. Lots of questions followed but, we were glad to just tell them the truth up front.

Cherann said...

That is sad. I think preschool teachers have really made a difference in my little girls life. It sad to hear that one of the great ones has passed away.

CG said...

Sorry to hear the sad news. It sounds like Eldest is a smart guy, he may understand more than you realize. I wish you luck explaining it to him. My deepest sympathies.

Life As I Know It said...

Oh my gosh, that is so sad!

Cate said...

That is so sad....I've never had a teacher pass away, but I can imagine the impact it can make on a child...

karen said...

Death is just a part of life. Maybe the sooner the mystery is knocked out of it, the better? Of course we are all sad when someone special dies but it doesn't have to be a horrible experince. I've always thought kids should be allowed to feel sadness and loss just as we allow them to feel happiness and joy. Without a counterpoint, how can they understand the true point? Still, I doubt it will be a comfortable conversation to have with your son, and wish you luck through it!

Shauna said...

That's so sad. My thoughts are with you, the other teachers and all the children.

Carla said...

Thinking of you. I am sad but also thankful for the time your son had to spend with an excellent teacher!

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